I am one of the bad guys -the unfaithful partner. 35H,34W,11M 3 kids, and my beef with this book is that it does not talk at all about the Exit Affair concept, and it does not draw out two core assumptions- 1)that the UP needs to feel REMORSE (i really dont) and that 2)the UP needs to be 100% committed to making the marriage work (I'm really not)
and yet I waffle on the fence, mortified about the effect on the kids, and the longterm mental health of my wife. no kids, I'd have left yrs ago. But as it is, we are in a sticky situation.
Anyway, for what was otherwise a great book on the subject of marriage and infidelity, I was bummed there wasn't more for guys like me - who could prob be lassoed back in, but feel that 99.9% of ther literature out there is intended for the BS
