Piecing - H still contacts OW

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Hi, HB and SH,

Thanks for checking up on me. My parents are visiting so less time on the board. Most days it's just log on, check on my friends, and log out.

I have had good PMA lately. Instead of blindly guessing on the level of contact H has with OW, I try to not think about it and just enjoy the time with H. Not easy sometimes. When H says something totally innocent but triggers OW memory, I try to brush it aside and just take whatever he says as what it is and put a positive spin on it. For example, when he says he cannot sleep, the old me would think that's because of OW (which was before). Now if he says it's because of work, I ignore my guessing and treat it as stress from work and try to ease his stress. I am trying not to analyse too much.

One thing that's happening is that our honeymoon period seems to be over and we are going back to the daily routine without much romance or love "sparks". And I think I am the one who does not feel so much romance, rather than H. So that's something I am working on, to put my heart into it more to "feel" the love, feel the kisses, etc.

My parents are leaving soon so I need to find a baby sitter so we can continue to go on dates every so often. Since we do not have friends to do things with yet, it has been hard on me. (H interacts with people at work so not as bad). Fortunately I am an introvert so I am not going crazy being alone. But I will need to find some friends/couples to hang out soon.

So overall, we are doing fine. H is still not opening up but I guess I will wait for that. May take some time.