On my thread you said my wife does not deserve me. That may be true. She certainly is not behaving very well. What would you say about your own wife? Why do you continue to wait for her? I am in a similar place, I think.
I am thinking like you. I wait because I hold the commitment I made to my marriage highly. My W and your W could be going off the deep end at this point in their lives. A true friend would not discard them for that, just as a friend would not discard another friend that was an alcoholic. I need to stand by and give her a chance to come back. Patience is indeed the name of the game.