I can't say it any better than Fish has been so instead of re-hashing it all, I'll just suggest that you re-read Fish's posts throughout your thread.

You are right that your next move could be critical - but I hope you will really look at the situation and make the right move FOR YOU. Not with the goal of saving an R that (in my opinion) is never going to be what you want/wanted.

Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7
Bomb 1 10/07/06
Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15
Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07
Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate
2/08 slowly improving
7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!)
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