Well, maybe a baby step. Go for a kiss, if he gets weird kiss him on the cheek or just walk away. If he kisses you back, see if you can't stretch it out for 10 seconds. Try and make it a regular part of your greeting/goodbye routine and see how it goes?
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
Yes, I could try that. I would still be nervous about how he would react though. It feels so weird to be nervous about kissing my H! Ugh! Maybe I can put the moves on him on Thursday. I know I will go over there to watch Lost...plus I am getting my hair done after work...so maybe I will look extra hot. Maybe he won't be able to resist me
It is weird how the things you used to take for granted, the ILYs and the hugs and kisses, become such rare/non-existant and appreciated/wished for things. I know if my H and I ever R I will not take them for granted.
Whatcha gonna do with your hair?
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
I agree, I won't take those thing for granted either. I am just going to get it trimmed and highlight, but the girl will fix it when she is finished and she always does it way better than me. I am blond, but the last time I went I got it done REALLY blond and I liked it a lot...so I am going to do that again.
I have gotten into this habit of asking for a kiss...and last time H said yes, but I don't have to ask. Next time I will just go for it, no asking.
I had my hair professionally cut for the first time I can remember last April/May. I donated it to Locks of Love and Super Cuts did the donation for me and then comped the haircut. I had layers done and it's the shortest my hair had been in probably 20 years. Once I got over the shock (about a week later) I really liked it.
I'm starting a compliment a conversation goal. Not just listening/validating, but actually finding something to pick out and say something positive about my H. Want to join me?
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
Yeah...asking definitely shows desperation, not good!
I have done the Locks of Love thing before. When I moved back I got my hair cut kind of short but it wasn't enough to donate...now I wish I had left it long, but it is getting there.
Yes, I will join you on the compliment goal. Do you mean you are going to make an effort to give H a compliment everytime you talk to him? Sounds like a good idea to me.
Yes, that is the goal. I have been more successful at keeping my opinions to myself since I have come to realize that due to his self-esteem issues he is VERY sensitive to criticism/sarcasm, even thing I consider teasing/joking H seems to find hurtful. So, I have been working on being more supportive of him in general. Now, to step it up, actual unsolicited compliments.
I had never done it before last year. My hair might be long enough to do it again right before I walk for graduation (even though I'll still have summer school) in May. We shall see.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
Wow, didn't realize you were that close to graduation. I bet you are excited. I couldn't wait to get out and start working and making money....now of course I miss school and all my friends.
H and I tease and joke with each other a lot, but when things were at their worst he took everything literally and very personally. I will join you on the compliments. That will be good for his PMA.
I just got an email from my best friend that I need to go get measured for my bridesmaid dress for her wedding. Ugh! It is horrible to have to be in a wedding during all of this...and this is my second to be in since the bomb!! The wedding isn't until June so I guess a lot could change between now and then. Right now, it is just something that I don't want to deal with.
