whatever good man your H was, he is on vacation, this is a new person with his own agenda in which only he, himself and *i* are on it.
I remember quivering from day to day, reading a lot into anything my H did, either good or bad. I read on this depression book that a sign of being an enabler is if you defined your R depending on your spouses' mood "he looks serious, he wants out!" or "he called me honey, he loves me again!".
Lower your expectations to 0.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
