Regarding the confusion around telling D12.. It seems your wife may be "temperature taking." You said, "ok. we'll tell her on the weekend," and seemed ok about it. Maybe she expected you to cry and beg and it threw her off.
I say this because when the weekend came your your wife did nothing about this talk. Knowing your feelings about what the right time would be (not a school night) she launched back into it when it was safe that you wouldn't say, "ok, let's take care of it now."
This is the kind of stupid stuff I did when hungry for attention or drama. If it wasn't happening, I made it happen. I might have been telling my H at times that I wanted out, but really I just needed the "high" of hearing that he wanted me.
Your wife seems just as immature as I was in those days.
