Olive, I would guess that both your H and OW are not showing their true colors yet but will in time. I know my H is still pretending to be a neat person but is really a total slob, so OW will be in for a shock about that. He has a bad temper, etc. Eventually OW is going to see these things. Also OW is on her 2nd or 3rd marriage (still married) so I suspect she will not be the perfect woman she is pretending to be now either. I bet in every case on the boards here there is a similar situation. I think these affairs are like fantasies and eventually most (the statistics are 90% I think) break up when they realize that it is just a fantasy; the grass isn't any greener, etc.) Karen43
