I don't post much anymore due to differing opinions as to how certain circumstances should be handled but your post caught my eye and I want to tell you that you are mistaken. You have children and more than decade of the warmth that having a family brings a man. Those things aren't replaced by the mistress. They are merely DISplaced. The times the two of you woke with the kids early on Christmas morning, the nights you were both up, or taking turns when a child was sick, all the times you've been together and shared that look that passes between a mother and father that ONLY you two can share - that KNOWING...all of this, and countless other times and trials that you went through together...she can't touch one second of any of that. She doesn't come close to holding a candle to you. Other women are a distraction, from lifes circumstances, from marital issues they don't know how to face, and from growing old. This isn't about you and the tramp doesn't have anything on you.
Realize that and take your dignity out of her hands. Your husband is very likely to follow.
