You've been doing great. Keep doing the positive things you've been doing - he's noticing. It's scary how quickly a marriage can be dissolved in some places. It doesn't give you much time. Even if the D goes through, it sounds like he still wants to be a part of your life and D. It's never too late.
Me47 H46 S13 M16 Piecing since May/09
"Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it." Lou Holtz