Dayana, Sounds like you're sort of in limbo ... he says he's trying to "pull away", OW says the opposite. Who knows if either of them are telling the truth. We've all seen our spouses tell as many fibs as they need to cover their a$$es ... and some of us have had dealings with OW trying to drives wedges between us.
Can you see a lawyer to discuss any legal consequences of your H leaving this manager? I'm sure he has a contract. Does the contract mention anything about that? If your H is serious about leaving her, then he'll be open to this suggestion. If not, then, he either still doesn't know what he wants or is simply feeding you a bunch of bunk.
