What the others have said to you is very true. Take care of yourself. Even if you have no contact with your H, you will be a better person in the long run. Plus you never know who you will run into that 'happens' to know H. This has happened to me on a number of occasions. H and I talk now (1 year later) but in the beginning H went so far as to tell me, "Don't call me! I just wanna deal with you on MY terms!" So I stopped calling, texting everything. Didn't call his family...nobody. Just went on with the program. Eventually he reached out to me...seems somebody saw me out at the store or something and he got a full report of how I looked, how I acted, the whole nine! It took him a few weeks after that but he finally contacted me.
We still don't talk frequently but at least now I can call if I want....I just choose not to. He's receptive to talking to me (not R talks though) and it's cool...I'll take it for now. Don't want to rush into anything.
So take the advice of your fellow DB'ers...do for you and your daughter. That is the BEST thing you can do right now. If H notices and wants to reach out to you...EXCELLENT!! If not....FINE....keep it movin' honey!
