Read my post again. I didn't say you were wasting OUR time, I said you were wasting YOURS. I think you'll find loads of helpful people here, and you've already been given very good advice on this very thread. But you're not FOLLOWING it.
Until you establish some firm boundaries and stop allowing your husband to cake-eat, he's never going to change. All you can change is YOU, and how you RESPOND to HIM. YOU CAN'T CHANGE HIM.
Humans are "path-of-least-resistance" creatures. We do what we're allowed to do, and don't do the hard stuff unless we're made to. That is true of me, of you, and of your husband. Stop making this easy on him.
