MLC came to my house...

[tpaschal]

My husband told me last night that he's been looking for another partner for at least 10 years. . . that our coming together is only f**king

That's after he said we should never have gotten married, never really loved me with his whole heart, something was always missing, blah, blah, blah

He also told me that he was always happy in our marriage, that it's not me, that he always felt loved and supported, will always cherish the memories of our life together, that I'm an awesome wife and lover, that I deserve better,(he got that one right) blah, blah, blah. . .

So many inconsistencies. . . so much BS. . . he doesn't really know his a** from his elbow anymore and the scary thing is that I'm not sure I do either

So true. So many inconsistencies. One minute he would tell me that he wasn't trying to erase our 20 happy years together, the next he was telling he'd been miserable our whole life together and never should have married me.

I also got the "you deserve someone better" speech. Well, first he kept telling me that he didn't love me anymore, wasn't emotionally available anymore, and should find someone else. Then it was that we weren't right for each other and never had been, that he obviously wasn't strong enough to stand up to me all those years to let me know how unhappy I made him, and I needed someone stronger. Told me that he was tired of being the good guy and wanted to be the "bad boy" and that I should just move on.

<sigh> It's bizarre.