MLC came to my house...

[tpaschal]

tpaschal;

OMG,, yep I got the 5,10,15, and most recently 23 years of unhappiness...that would be my whole marriage.. and he told it to my D21...yep, she's very smart, now hates her dad....he basically told her he didn't want them...wow....he's an idiot..

I just think that SOMEDAY they will again want a relationship with their kids (I've seen it happen with a friend whose H did this 10 years ago), and in many cases, it is too late. The kids want nothing to do with them. I keep praying that my H will not be one of the stupid ones who waits that long, but I don't have much hope right now.

Yes, Sandy, I got the great mother's day card and journey necklace....I cried....it was the best mother's day ever..and I told him that...then a month later he didn't love me anymore...said, it was all a front...he's been lying to himself all these years...yep, a knife right to the heart....I don't believe him though...and let me know when you get that sex was becoming a chore...yep, got that one...but funny he didn't act like it was a chore...maybe he meant he had a whore.....yea, that's it...

Yep, been there, done that as well. I've never been hugely into jewelry, but H always enjoyed buying it for me, and surprising me with it. For my birthday in summer of 2003 he gave me a yesterday, today, tomorrow diamond pendant, for Mother's Day 2004 he bought me a big new wedding band set (I had lost the diamond out of my original engagement ring), and for our anniversary at Christmas 2005 he gave me a diamond circle eternity pendant. When I asked him why he had done all of those things if he had been so miserable all that time, he said, "Habit."

Sorry, dude. You don't spend that much time shopping around (together) for just the right ring and spend that much money and then drag me around by my hand to show it off to everyone out of "habit." I know he loved me and was genuinely proud of me (and yes, there was an element of boasting of how great he was by showing off the ring to everyone) but I also think it was because of genuine excitement that he was able to do this for me and it made us both happy.

All those things should help us realize even more that this IS some type of mental illness. At least IMHO.

Tpaschal; I got hurt last July, hit with a car door in the temple.. had a golf ball size knot on my head...very bad...called H to take me to Hosp...no answer..had to call my mom to take me and friends had to drive my car home..ended up in the emergency room for several hours by myself cause mom had to take care of my kids...everyone was trying to call H and he never answered..we even left messages..his response was, "see you can do it by yourself""...I was crushed...this is the man i loved for all these years and he couldn't help me but when he had an eye infection and had to go to the ER I was there just for moral support....MLC SUCKS!!!!


Treese

Treese, I am so sorry you were injured and had to go through that alone. I know how much it sucks. My H used to be the kind of guy who would have been in the room holding my hand during the biopsy if I had asked him to, and now he can't even stand to be in the same room with me? It hurts so much.

I hope you are completely recovered. I am so glad to have other women to share with who have gone through the same thing. Doesn't make the hurt go away, but maybe it lessens the load just a bit knowing that others are sharing the same burdens.

{{hugs to Treese and Sandy}}