Sandy,
Just to put your mind at ease - tho this wasn't the case with me - there have been countless cases on this board of husbands doing this same thing to their wives. BND had several years of hell that was unbelievable. Her H is now home. She's just one of many. I just wanted to chime in.........you're not alone....but it truly is hell to go thru what you are dealing with right now.

There are also some H's who haven't come home.........and the divorce went thru............and now they are admitting it was "them" all along - not their spouse.

Hang in there..........if you're truly bent on standing....you're in for one heck of a ride. Do not change what you've been doing..........you've been right on the mark. God will give you strength.

brue

I'm alive, I'm happy - why shouldn't I tell the world I've got my head screwed back on just fine.
Life is good for the Brue!