Grace, hang in there. come here any time to talk. Your daughter sounds like she has inner strength. did she write that note on her own? That's great!
My counselor told me that kids often shy away from these hard subjects, but it's like broccoli. They really need to do it, even if they are scared of the conversation. But gently gently. And slow. Maybe not all in one night. The main thing is to make sure they know it is ok, the way they are feeling (confused, angry, hurt, worried, frustrated, relieved, whatever it is, maybe all of the above) is ok. It's ok to feel that way, and it's ok to talk about it. It's not a secret and it's not shameful that they feel this way. It's not their fault, and they don't deserve it, but you will stick by them, you will stay together and work it out.
M 43 S14 S13 D11 D7 Divorce final: Jan 2009 Making it up as I go....
