Help...feel frustrated, helpless and sad! WAW/?MLC

[AliSuddenly]

Hi Purr.. Sounds like you handled the phone conversation really really well. Its so strange isnt it, to force oneself to be so careful in how we communicate when you are dying to say "are you ok?? You sound sad?? Shall I come over ???" All of which would be a disaster of course. I really identify with you when you said

I'm just babbling and missing her and REALLY FRUSTRATED even though I'm doing the stuff I need to do. I am having fantasies of her calling up and saying "what was I thinking?? This was crazy on my part..."

I feel the same, you babble on and think this and that and essentially, we ust miss them. I had a tough weekend too, as like you, we'd had a couple of meet ups recently and I was expecting another one soon. Then to have the weekend to myself was a blow, as it must have been for you there. Its so brilliant that she is in MC with you then, I would be ecstatic if my BF had agreed to that (he flat refused). Good luck for Tuesday..whats your plan in MC then? Are you still trying to just sit and stay quiet and listen? Or does the C try and draw you in?

I agree with you that your W called you perhaps with more on her mind than just the work sitch, that the whole pressure of her sitch may be getting to her, that perhaps she isnt feeling the reflief she thought she would once she had left you? I think its amazing she did call you to discuss it...your the guy she left! Its surreal. Dont they get it ?? You are her main support. My BF also downloaded about work the minute he arrived, the past twice I have seen him and no doubt would the next time I see him. Like you I was pleasant and helpful and happy for him to talk about it (I was happy he was talking to me at all !). I dont think you are reading too much into it, it is significant that she turned to you for help over it anyway. I guess shes still in the same frame of mind though and it IS frustrating isnt it ! Thinking of you.
Ali
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