Maybe some humor, too. Like "Yes, being nasty usually works. ;)"
You know, just about anything you say - the words may matter less than your attitude, your tone, the look on your face. if you have an easy look on your face; a compassionate, easy tone; those things will go far toward easing the tension.
please no more "put yourself in my shoes". That is what she cannot bear right now.
Even the vodka comment - do you need to take that personally? Come on, you know there is tension between you now, right? So maybe that is an opportunity to crack a joke, while empathizing with her. "Oh yeah, Vitamin V. That I can do. My doctor says I'm not getting enough." The joke says you're not dying inside, the comment shows you empathize.
Seriously, you can do this.
you are hurt by her actions, but the ironic thing is, she doesn't want you back if you're hurt. She wants you solid, independent, funny, like when you first met.
M 43 S14 S13 D11 D7 Divorce final: Jan 2009 Making it up as I go....