MrsH, I have never posted to you but I have followed your sitch pretty close. I admire your strength and patience. I even find myself getting so angry at your H! I just wanted to comment on something you asked.
Originally Posted By: MrsH
Is it really true that they don't remember half the stuff they say?
My dad went through a MLC and it took him about 4 years to come out of the fog. As and adult child I feel that I got the brunt of it almost as bad as my mother. He is like night and day from when he was deep into it. The other day he told me that people tell him things he said and he just can't believe it. He really has no clue about some of the things he said or even did. He became hateful and mean, definitely not the person I grew up with. Now he is back to normal...very strange. He is unhappy and very regretful of things. He also had an OW for over 2 years. It was a very obsessive relationship on both parts. I am not sure exactly when or how it ended, but now he says he hates her and she ruined his life..(as if he had no part in the decisions).
I am telling you this in hopes that you will see that they really are in a fog. Try not to take what he says personally. It is not about you, it is completely about him. I know it is hard and it seems he is using your boys to manipulate the situation. Hopefully you can get something in writing soon regarding visitation.
Originally Posted By: happyincognito
she was a constant reminder of everything that i was running away from. there were times when my daughter made the same expressions as her and it made me angry.
Maybe this is how my dad saw it and why it seemed that he was running away from me too.
