Jeanette,

"Is it allowed?"

I would say no, but (now let me negate what I just said) this is a man that's so frickin nuts he's said to me only (no, I don't have it in writing) that he won't contest for custody b/c he knows what the girls mean to me (?!?). Of course this includes the fact they would interfere in the "new" lifestyle he sees himself (plans on) having.

"Better yet....what are you thinking? Unless of course you're unconscious."

I think I'd like to be unconscious. What I'm thinking is that if I push not only will he go, he will either have very minimal or no contact with our D's. My first priority is for him to be involved with them on a consistant basis. I don't want them to pay more of price by not having him.

Sir,

Well, I haven't flipped on him....yet. I'm working really hard at biting my tongue.

Thanks for you input on D's (esp D13), I'll definately use that technique.

So far, we won't have to move, so they'll be able to keep their lives relatively normal.

D13 left a note for her Dad (with a paper flower) this morning. It reads:

" I'll miss every minute of you , Dad. Have fun in your new apartment \:\) I would like to visit sometime k? Love, D13
I'll miss you \:\( I love you."

I saw him read it and then look at it again on his way out the door. I never said a word. He didn't take the flower.