Even though I did not post until 2/2007 - I had been reading out here daily since August 2006.
From EVERYTHING I have read I would NOT jeapardize your rights/custody by moving out and potentially being labeled as an "abandoning father".
If she wants/needs space SHE SHOULD MOVE OUT. When my H moved out - separating really did not help us other than he got to see what life was like w/out the kids on a nightly basis (we felt it was best that they stayed in the home w/their stuff - he got them on Friday eves - thru Sunday - but not even always this).
Both H and I felt the separating was more of a timeout vs. helping in any real sense.
Your W seems more like SHE is controlling (or trying to). I would really think about how likely she is going to change her mind and try reconcillation - it seems she should be able to make this decision with you there at home just as easy if you are gone. I sense she wants to get you out at the first cut to the ties - I would be afraid of never getting back in...
My IC said that most therapists would recommend staying in the same place to work on the R - NOT move out.
And what's with the complaint of you not giving her money - does she think you will do this once you D????
Just my .02 -
HB
Me41 H44 * M16 yrs * D13 S10 8/06 H wants a D * 1/07 OW Truth 2/07 Searated * 7/07 H moved home First Thread Surviving Separation Now Piecing
