I fully understand about the summer and the cottage situation. Although your kids are important, you have to be able to menatlly survive and move on as necessary. I rent space in my head sometimes and think about how much fun summer used to be at FIL's house at Cape Cod, MA. Just incredible memories. W. told me I could go there with the kids anytime I wanted. She just doesn't get it. I also understand the complete annoyance thing you describe. If I stood too close to W. at S9's hockey games, she would have to move away, or better still, and far more endearing, just made hand gestures to tell me to back up.
For my 50th, when we were stil living together, but she had stated she wanted a divorce, she got me a Tag Heuer diving watch, with the date(only) inscribed on the back. Heartwariming! I'll never wear a $1K watch! I stick with my $29.95 Ironman that got me from Pennyslvania to Iraq!
