Originally Posted By: enlightenbylife
Wow mea, I love your story.

When were you here and how long did it take for you to become the mea you are today?

You say 4 years but is that 4 years after or from beginning until now?

How old are the kids? and how many?

Great to see that ther is life after MLC

E


Hi E \:\)

I wasnt very clear, sorry..its been 4 years since my ex left. 4 years (probably 4 and a half actually..I dont even remember the date he left now.. ) ago I thought Id die, but I DIDNT, and Im as happy now, maybe happier, than Ive ever been!

I DBd for around a year, I think. He came home after 9 months, but left again a week later, I think I half-heartedly DBd a bit more, maybe a few weeks, then got sick of excusing his bad behaviour. He also has Narcissistic Personality Disorder I believe, and it came out very strongly in that time, he was DISGUSTING to me, pushed me to the edge whenever he could. A lot of MLCers are horrible to thier LBS, but mine was in a league of his own, honestly!

The kids arnt kids as such..one is now 22, the other 27, but both needed him badly at that time...my youngest has special needs and quite severe learning disabilities, and my eldest was very very ill at the time and almost died. Both are happy and well now, although obviously my youngest will always have special needs.

It was a heartbreaking time for all of us, made worse by the fact that the Spook (the then-OW) was a total nutter who stalked us, threatened us, and generally tortured us.

We were also witnesses to a Murder outside of our home a few weeks after CD left, and the courtcase hung over us all like a black cloud, and the Spook was involved in sending anonymous letters to us about the case, which was scary as it involved local drug dealers, she used it to scare us at every chance she could.

There was also our courtcase (very long and complicated, it involved the Home I grew up in as a kid, and which my Mother owned..she signed it over to me, and my Ex "stole" it, basically. That course case went ahead 2 years ago, I lost, and it almost killed my Mother...BUT, like I keep saying, we all survived. A few scars, a bit battered and bruised, but alive and enjoying life!!

If I can do that, anyone can \:D (and I was the worst DBer here, lol, Im a very emotional person, very impulsive, and DBing was SO hard for me to get right! I never quite mastered it (dont know if Snodderly still posts here, but she,ll agree, Im sure!! haha)

MEA X