get a hold of yourself. No more "ask her to give it some time." When she talks and says "I just don't have the feeling and not sure it's coming back" that is your signal to EMPATHIZE.
That is not a signal to ASK FOR SOMETHING FROM HER.
EMPATHIZE.
What does it feel like to her? I'll bet it feels crappy. "Wow, that sounds ,.. really... sad. Empty, maybe. I can only imagine how that tortures you."
Do not ask her to recall all the good times. You think it will work but it won't. They have to do it on their own time. They will not do it with prompting from you.
back off.
Instead of watching Girls Gone Wild tonight, maybe re-read a chapter or two of DR ?
seriously.
M 43 S14 S13 D11 D7 Divorce final: Jan 2009 Making it up as I go....
