So much stuff to intake at one time. To many thought comes out jumbled.
My take on the WAS is they feel justified in what they do. I can see the point. From their perspective there was no other option. Or to put it another way he/she made me do it. Littlebit was a WAW. Her spouse DB'd she now wants it all back. She says she has learned so much about herself and understands it all but if you sit down and read what she says she has still not quite got it. That over the top/"needy" person that comes out here at times has to show up IRL with 10 times the intensity. That is exactly the person that Walked Away. I would be scared as hell of it to. My wife hates it when she sees me posting here. So I try and jam as much in when I can. The night I posted to you I had read LittleBit's stitch and it was all I could think about. I may have been a little off. I think it showed.
What kind of closure are you looking for? I mean she could say she was sorry. Or she was retarded. Or she just wanted things her way. How does that make it clear in your mind and what "changes" in you that makes it all better? The DB'ing is about getting back to "who you were". That thing that made you "the man". So many things have happened and so much "life" has gone on that you can't be that person. You are stuck in "cheeseless tunnels".
What do you have to loose by just giving in? Isn't that what it is all about. F closure. That little voice has told you what has happened. You know it all. Why are you waiting on someone else to make it right. Simple analogy. You find a house. It is everything you ever wanted. It has some small flaws that kinda nag at you. The bathroom is all black. This really bothers you but you "love" this house. It is the one you have dreamed of. It has a detached garage with heat/AC, Cable, A bed room with a shower and the floor of the garage is autographed with every NASCAR driver up to 2006. And then it was clear coated. When it comes time to sign that contract is the black bathroom really gonna stop you? Truth be told the investment you made when you got married pales in comparison to that. You know you can fix it. You know it will take time/effort he** maybe some sweat and blood. There will definitely be some cussing involved to.
You can fix this stuff. Just like you can fix whats going on with "crazy bi**h". Stop trying to figure out why. It really doesn't matter and may not ever make sense. I know it is frustrating. I know it drives you crazy. I know you drive to work pissed off. She has done all of the above. She has a different approach than you and me. The effort. The hurt. The distance. Are all the same.
Remember.. you made her do it. You caused it.
You were doing the same things. She made you do it. She caused it. You just never got to the point of giving up.
She is lucky to have you. You are lucky to have her. She showed you what a DAM you were and you "finally" listened. Maybe you can show her you are the Knight in Shining Armor she has been looking for. Maybe she will "finally" listen. I have said before "People only listen when they want to."
You posted. You got my vote.
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
