I went to C today and it went very well. Since then, I am able to focus on myself and am more relax than ever! Finally I am free from crappy situation (for now). I am going to have a good night!
Beauty
Me:31 H:29 D:7 S:2 M:7y Together:8y found out his A :07/07 bomb:11/01/07 s: 11/15/07 OW-1 is out of state; other female friends around first thread
My H is sick (cold/flu). I got soups, drinks and fruits and visited him. I tried to be nice to him, thinking he has no body to rely on in person.. So I did my best. And then, when I checked our joint account (which used by only him now) and found out he went to a movie (I am assuming it was last Monday because he was repeadedly saying he has a study group). He is not telling me about any recent movie so it must be woman. She must be new because she is not arround when he is sick. In my head, "detaching!, detaching!!, detaching!!!" and I am not mad, upset or anything... just "oookay, that's what happening.."
My MIL invited me for lunch. From the beginning she asked me how H and I are doing. I told her some but not all. I told her about child support, trip to see OW and possibly her family, his lack of parenting participation. She told me probably it is time for legal action( legal separation) so kids and I are protedted financially. I am not sure about this because I make more money than he does and he is trying to get education, which leads to possible 'supouse support'= I HAVE TO SUPPORT HIM (according to some information on internet)
Well, at this point, I just need to work by myself to go through this rocky roads and hope someday "my time to freak out" will come. Until then, be stable (that's my principle).
Beauty
Me:31 H:29 D:7 S:2 M:7y Together:8y found out his A :07/07 bomb:11/01/07 s: 11/15/07 OW-1 is out of state; other female friends around first thread
Hi Joie, He is feeling lots better. He had kids for Fri overnight and most of Sat. I finally had time for myself and went out with my friends. I was going to stay up late but I was soo tired and came home. I guess I was REALLY tired and slept 12 hours! While I was thinking "humm, life can be pretty good", I recieved text from H saying
"I have not heard from you all day. what u doing".
I thought about texting him then but I thought about BDing/detaching etc.. So, I put the cell phone down and went to take shower, get ready for the day, make-up, call friends, eat... etc.
So, I am feeling good today even though he blew up on me about small thing but I just led it go quickly. I am back on the track!
Oh.. I checked my bank account (personal and joint)and found out he really does not have money besides the next month rent. So... even I want to take all the money out from his account during the trip, there is no money. Oh well, I guess OW will have to take care of my H, without my help anyways. I am not sure how I feel about this.. I thought I can do something to ruin his trip!!.. well life does not go the way I want sometimes..
Beauty
Me:31 H:29 D:7 S:2 M:7y Together:8y found out his A :07/07 bomb:11/01/07 s: 11/15/07 OW-1 is out of state; other female friends around first thread
I did snooping when I had chance today (Good thing I did it). OW-1 is pressuring that she wants a baby according to his text. My H sent her our kids pictures (I think this is BS but..) and she replied to "they are beautiful.. I wish I was a friend of your kids..." It is 5 day until his trip to go see her.. I really wish he does not have a baby with her...
Beauty
Me:31 H:29 D:7 S:2 M:7y Together:8y found out his A :07/07 bomb:11/01/07 s: 11/15/07 OW-1 is out of state; other female friends around first thread
