BT, you are correct, we have a long way to go. This stuff can turn on you real quick if you let your DB guard down. I will continue to do what is working and avoid what is not working. I am also setting goals for our new relationship. We have taken a few HUGE steps forward, I am going to give W a lot of space right now to let things sink in. Putting pressure on her will set me back big time. I must continue to let her pursue me.
Right now I am just laying low, doing my own thing and letting her drive the bus. I am keeping myself very busy. I told W that I was going to the golf show today, having dinner with my family and then playing cards with the boys tonight. She sees that I am a VERY different person. I have my own life and I no longer feel a need to control her. Today I look at W as my girlfriend, not my wife. That seems to be working.
Right now my goal is to make the 3 day weekend happen. If we get there, that will be another major step forward. Not today, but a few weeks from now.
Who knows what the future holds, but right now things are good. Looking forward to calling the lawyer tomorrow and letting him know that the divorce is on hold and we are working on our marriage. Amazing!
One last thing... I have been very tempted to call W tonight and "check in." Not going to do it! I will let her make the next move. 10 minutes after I left the hotel today she called me to thank me for a great time and that she will call to plan our week together and lock down our 3 day weekend.
