This explains a lot doesn't it? She probably went off them right before you and D moved in with her.
Maybe, maybe not - She probably stopped while we were living together. I know she filled the prescription just after New Year, but I don't think she filled the next one.
Originally Posted By: JennyF
Anyway, sounds like you guys are getting along well enough, that's great. You guys obviously have a great friendship...this is a great place to start!
It's strange - This weekend we've been doing a lot of things that we used to do eons ago when we were first together. The places we go, the time we spend doing stupid stuff... It's all very confusing - Probably for both of us.
I IM'd my W around 10 this morning to ask if she wanted me to bring D over - She talked a bit about her night out with her friends, which sounded like it got a crazy, as she didn't get home until 4am. She asked if we wanted to take D out for soup for lunch, which has become our usual Sunday routine now, so I said I'd be over before noon. D and I went out and ran some errands together, then went by W's house. Off we went for lunch, which ended up kind of nuts since D didn't want to sit still at all. W called her Mom while we were out, and it ended up that her birthday thing was postponed until next weekend because her sister's kids are sick. So, I figured I'd be leaving W at her house with D and doing my own thing this afternoon. Not even close.
W suggested we go to Wal-Mart with D and pick up some new shoes for her, new toys and some other things. D was getting sleepy, but we went anyway and found all sorts of fun things. W mentioned she needed something for her computer that I got her for her birthday, so we decided to let D sleep in the car and drove back across town to go to the computer store - Ended up running by W's house on the way to pick up some things for D, plus W had forgotten her credit card. D was fast asleep, but woke up just as we got there, so we played with her in the store and picked up what W needed. We ended up running by downtown together since I needed to do something at a datacenter I used to work at, so we all went in and D ran around the office like a lunatic while I was busy. Drove back in the direction of W's house - Oh, she has a roast beef, so she is going to cook that... Went back to W's house, she started dinner, I went to Home Depot and worked on fixing her bathroom sink while she was watching D, then we all had dinner together. W did bath time with D afterwards, so I did the washing up and put everything away - That's a 180 for me, although W didn't acknowledge it in any significant way. After D went to bed I pretty much got my stuff together and left - W was talking to OM on her computer, so I just bailed out. Got a hug, kiss and ILY when I left.
Interesting things:
1) W ran some guilt trips today to have me do things with her and D - She kept telling me that I didn't have to go places if I had things to do. Of course I didn't have things to do, because I left the afternoon open for your birthday party that didn't happen. So, now, just over a week after she told me she didn't want to spend time with me anymore, SHE is playing with my head to make me spend more time with her... I did tell her I had one things to do, but she asked if she could come along. Oh, and this was her weekend with D, so she didn't really need me around if she wanted to spend time with D. wtf?
2) W and I were talking about some interesting cities to live in, and she mentioned that she didn't want me to move until D was much older - Told her I had no plans to move anywhere right now. She mentioned a couple of places that it'd be fun for me to move to, because "I could come and hang out". Yeah, because divorced couples always go and hang out together 10 years afterwards...
3) W talked some about being unhappy and of her confusion. She really keeps pushing me to find things to keep her busy - I might even go as far as saying she wants something to occupy her time (work projects and such). I get the impression she really dislikes her job right now and wants to find an activity that gives her more of a purpose... I really have no idea how to accomplish that right now, but I'm going to get her setup with some part-time work with a few people I used to work with.
4) She pretty much talks none stop to me all the time we're together - She'll just say stuff out of the blue that is totally out of context, as if she has been wanting to say it for a while, but didn't know the time or place. Pretty typical, I think, when you've got a lot on your mind, but feel really uncomfortable talking about any of it.
5) W talked about coming over to my house and doing painting and helping me get stuff set up. Said she'd pick up some color swatches so we can figure out what will look best in various places. She suggested coming over tonight at first, but since she had D, she said she'd come over another night.
6) W is very tolerant and, maybe, relaxed around me. I don't know what is going on on the inside, but she doesn't seem to get as wound up being with me like she used to. Of course, she could just be faking it and not wanting to deal with any of the conflict. There have been times when she tells me that I'm doing something annoying, or that it makes her uncomfortable, but things like hanging out in her kitchen while she is working in there don't seem to cause the same problems.
I naturally expect that all of this will change in the next week or two, and she'll get all quiet and withdrawn again. I'm not sure if I should continue to be dark towards her until she initiates contact, or if she expects me to 'step up' and do some things for her...
