This is the last place I expected people to make me feel like dirt. I DO search others threads,extensively, and I take the advicde of doing things for myself very seriously. I just happen to feel that STALKING, as I have been encouraged to do, is not good for ME, and isn't that the point? All I ask is that people stop making assumptions about what a terrible person I am. I am not lazy, unwilling, fearful, hard-headed, or viscious. I am hurting, and looking for my own roadmap to get me the H*LL out of this mess.