It is hard - these emotions aren't conducive to GAL; but, we all know that finding other things to do/think about is key to getting control over the emotions. Could you maybe come up with a little "to do" list - a combination of items that include things you like/want to do and things that will give you a sense of accomplishment or relief when they are done? Maybe some short term and some longer term? It will be motivating and also easier to think of "what to do" when you are a loose ends.
me: 47 H: 48 he has 2 grown sons M 1995(my 1st, his 3rd) hit iceberg 6/07 S 9/26/07 before now