well, I've been grazing these boards for about a year now, and seem to have found my age appropriate (or at least length of marriage appropriate) group. I am amazed at the uncanny similarities between Leah, Bomb, etc and my own history.
Married for 27 years, three great kids, just about the bottom of the ninth with the mortgage paid, last kid off to school, now time for us. Then the rules changed.
EA/PA? began 12/06. Her friend confirmed affair 1/07. MC (of sorts-really a venting expedition on Rostov). WAW tells me on the phone while I was in San Fran on business in 2/07 that she wanted to move out for the summer, moved out in summer '07 without telling me where, told me in 10/07 on the phone while I was in Europe on business that she wanted a D. The further away I was the worse the information. Now living in the same house in different rooms. Clearly active PA going on.
D action started (by me) after unsuccessful DB'ing for about 10 months. Still find myself trying techniques subconsciously. So why do we want them back? Interesting question. But I would.
Anyway, I really am here to say thanks to all of you who helped me get through this time. I do believe in the right circumstances there is hope for the technique, and more than anything, that time helps. So hang in there. I do believe that GAL and detachment remain an asset to me now.
