Purr, Ali et all, Have been reading your threads for a while(lurking) I`m (like Bruce) a bit, but not a lot, further on than you in this totally surreal situation we all find ourselves in.Ali nice to know you are in U.K. I`m in the North West of England you are down in the South west. My Dad was born in Cornwall and I lived there until I was 6 years old( Dad always called it "Gods little Land") I have posted some time ago when I was probably in about the same position as Purr is now. I am 60 now W is 53 this May. She is now living in her own rented house in town, struggling financially. When we seldom meet she is cordial but not affectionate she seems to have the attitude that her past life good as I thought it was is over and she is now independent and living her own life. There is no evidence of EA or PA since I had the bomb drop in May07. She tried to file for divorce the 2nd week after she left but was told she had "no grounds" for divorce and would have to wait 2 years( she told me this herself) I have to say that if any evidence of PA came to light then I would file for D myself. There is no way I could ever lie down with her again. Some one on one of these boards said "Save yourself before you save your marriage" I think this is the code we should all follow.We have been married (still married) 27 years.A dear sweet Christian girl who has gone completely off the rails.No one friends family or me can understand why she is behaving like this.The important thing to remember is that no one can help or speed this up it is really up to them and in the meantime the only way we can deal with this is to GAL. This is actually about self-help. A good source of inspiration is Joel Osteen(just Google it), big help to me.Thanks to Bombadier for your input
