I have a question for any of you reading... My question is how do you know if what you're seeing are baby steps or not? My H has been spending a lot more family time since I found out about the "feelings" he has for someone else and had a complete meltdown. He still calls me Hun, Honey, Baby.. He picked up D2 on Friday night from the house.. hung out here for a bit and then took her to the apartment. He even came back in the door and gave me a quick peck and a hug after putting her in the car.. He then asked for me to come spend some time with them on Saturday.. and then he called this morning to see if I wanted to maybe meet them at the mall and hang out together for a bit before he drops her off?? I'm not understanding this at all. I am being completely upbeat and light hearted.. today for example felt like a really great day.. like the old days prior to me knowing there was anything wrong with our relationship. He even referred to our home as Mommy and Daddy's house to D2.. where before today he always called it Mommy's house. I really don't get it?
So, do you think these are baby steps or that he is just SOOO messed up that he gives conflicting messages?
Regardless of how this turns out.. which obviously you know that I want my H to come home.. he has given me a rude awakening that I need to have a life of my own. I was living vicariously through him. He works a lot so I would not make plans to do anything for me or D2 in the off chance that it would be a weekend where he would have some free time.. 'cause I would have been upset with myself for missing out on family time that he deserves since he works so hard and so much. I have really let my friendships suffer over the years.. ever since we moved an hour away from where I grew up.. so my eyes have been opened. I need to reconnect, and have begun to, with people that are important to me. I need to be more than H's wife and D2's Mom.. I need to be a healthy and happy W2G.
