I just want to make it better. . .

[Evie]

Remember to do what works, every situation is unique, maybe you can offer the olive branch. Have you given him the present yet?

If you expect him too not answer your call then you won't be disappointed when he doesn't and small baby step pleased if he does or if he calls you back. Monitor the results by calling/texting him more often. Maybe reevalaute your goals a little?

Interesting what H said when you asked him if there was OW. I used to think that a lot a year ago, b/c my h would only say no when I asked him, he neither denied or defended or re-assured me. Now I don't think there is, I think he would be grooming and taking better care of himself if he was. I think his way of dealing with all this is to emerse himself deeper into work.

What does 'gaslighting' mean?

x eve