Pinkribbon - your "old" marriage is over, and it sounds like that's a good thing from what you've described. Also sounds like you're doing the right thing in terms of leaving him alone. You are right, there is nothing you can do but work on yourself.
YOU are responsible for making yourself happy - focus on that. You say it's been 5 months. What have you done during that time to make yourself whole, make your life rich and fulfilling?? If the answer is nothing, that you've been moping and dwelling on your situation, that's ok. Start now!! Just don't look back 5 MORE months from now with regrets, ok??
It may turn out that in the future you and your H decide to rebuild a new relationship together - it may not. Now's the time to get your focus on you and on making your future great EITHER way.
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
