what do you have that she wants to come back to? whining and snivelling like a freaking girl. grow some balls and get back into the game. you are equally to blame for her shortcomings. do you really ever follow through on the promises you have made to your wife?thread after thread of whining and venting and grumbling and moaning. poor me poor me. your wife wasn't alone in breaking up your family. its just more of the same. its time for you to do the real work and carry the burden of the family for a while and stop snivelling about it. it all depends how badly you want to save your marriage, maybe you oughta stop trying to save everyone elses and concentrate on your own. what is it they say physician heal thyself.