Well it's official - my divorce is on hold! W told me to call my lawyer on Monday, cancel the court date in March and let him know that the divorce is on hold and we are working on our marriage. Wow!
The pool party last night was awesome! My daughter, W and I had a fantastic time. Very minmal relationship talk, just a lot of fun.
After D went to bed we drank a little wine and had a nice chat. W said that she loves the changes in me. More relaxed, confident and happy. She also finds my new activities (GAL) very sexy. She said she is now ready to meet me half way and work on our marriage. I was also shocked to learn that her parents and her friends have told her that she is making a huge mistake.
W felt that our marriage needed a time out. Prior to our separation, there was a lot of tension. We needed time to grow as individuals so that we could build a better life together. She said that she had an epiphany in Europe. One morning she woke up and said "What am I doing?"
I did a lot of listening and validating last night. I let her drive the bus.
From a physical standpoint, we have been making out quite a bit, but no sex. The anticipation is kind of exciting. W feels that it would be too painful to start up the physical side of our relationship in a big way and then have to leave each other. I agreed.
I did tell her that she is very hot and I will always be very attracted to her. When the time is right... I am ready for action. She liked that.
Lots of real "I love yous" last night - not the phony kind.
10 minutes after we parted, W called me to say Thank you for a great night and that the two of us should go away together the weekend of 3-14. I said that sounds great. She also said that she would call later so we could plan our week together. She feels that we should schedule time together each week on our path to reconciliation. One night at home with D, one night out with D, one night out alone and possibly weekend activities.
She gave me more compliments last night than in the past 2 years.
Hopefully this will continue. I just need to play it very cool, not put any pressure on her and realize I have no control over this situation. The good news is that at this point, you can really enjoy the ride without being compelled to ask for more.
I truly believe I have gotten to this point via persistence, patience, time & space. Also GAL was absolutely key. It seems that once you are going to be fine without them, they come back.
