Mopsey, Why do you feel like he'll never get through this? Mopsey, it's because you are far too close to the situation and you are still analyzing every move/comment he makes. It's hard to completely let go, but you are going to have to do that in order to complete your journey. Even though you know you shouldn't expect anything from him, you are--for example, the tming at night. If he does, so be it, but there are going to be times when he's consumed w/himself and he will not do this.
Your h has been one of those that has been extremely kind to the family and is still very concerned about the welfare of each family member. This is a good thread of connection, but you need to step back just a bit from his drama. Your children are pretty much doing their own thing and if he comes over or calls them, they'll respond. You might want to observe their behavior and it may help you to detach a bit more.
They all come closer and then pull back. It's the dance to suck you back into their drama. They will do this unknowingly and that's why detachment is a must. Once they know you are still there in the game w/them, they'll disappear again and until they feel you pulling away again. Try to think of him on Mars and every now and then you get a postcard from him.
I'm glad you had a good week and you'll have so many more once spring comes and you can focus on other things. Enjoy the mall shopping and the peace and quiet you are experiencing. Life is so full of many ups and downs and you'll have many adventures along the way, just keep your mind wide open for whatever life tosses your way.
Enjoy your Sunday!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
