I actually see some humor creeping into your posts!
Attaboy! I think you're doing fantastic. I wish I'd caught on as quick as you.
Weekends can be a b!tch. I have learned to start planning my weekends on Monday. I pack 'em with stuff...cleaning, errands, hobby, friends, museum visits...and so on. This has helped tremendously.
Do you have any female friends? I'm certainly not advocating any sort of dating/relationship thing, but since the bomb, I've cultivated some friendships with some very thoughtful and understanding women. This has helped me a lot. They have really helped me understand my wife, and they have really eased the pain of not being able to talk to a rational woman. And as far as improving my attitude...priceless. Again, I have absolutely no sexual attraction to these women at all. They are happily married, and I am close friends with their husbands. It is pure friendship. Nor do I advocate trying to make your W jealous.
But it will make her think. It will instill doubt, and cause her to question her motives.
Another thing: be wary when your W is friendly and doing nice things for you. MLCers will frequently "play nice" so they can justify that, deep down, they are really "good people" despite all the heinous things they've done to make you miserable.
This is where the rollercoaster ride metaphor comes from. They will treat you with consideration and respect one minute, and then ask for a divorce the next. "Playing nice" is how they offset the guilt they feel.
You handled your W's request for a "consult" with the grace and aplomb of a seasoned LBS. Brilliant.
Bomb
Me: 51 W: 50 M 24 yrs EA: since Apr 06 S22, S26, S28 ILYBNILWY:Nov 07
"It's only after we've lost everything that we're free to do anything." Tyler Durden
