Just stopping by. You're thread's been busy!! Hope work isn't too tedious- I'm also having to do some work- not fun on a Sunday but what can you do?!
Originally Posted By: AliSuddenlyAlone
I just havent noticed any change of heart in him. I am encouraged that he continues to sign his messages "me" - but OneDay, I am always amazed that your H signs his "love H x x x" !!! and he has a purple-peril (hopefully an ex-purple-peril, hey?)
Ali- he has been making strides towards you. Going from no contact, to contact, to frequent contact, to telling you he feels low and explaining where he is and joking around with you seems like quite a few changes to me! He is moving towards you! But maybe it's just a little slower than you expect/want?
It's so hard to deal with, as we as LBS's want our WAS to come out with an about turn- just to say they made a horrible mistake and to come home. But in practise, it takes time (as you are seeing in your sitch). The great thing is that there are so many positive things happening in how BF is interacting with you. Laughing and joking are brilliant! Be patient- all good things come to those who wait!! (I am in cliche-ville today!). Remember that in crisis things happen on their timeline, not ours...
By the way, it's taken 6 months to get to 'Love H xx', from a starting point of 'no greeting' and signed 'H' (or nothing). Considering the pace at which things are going for you, you'll probably be getting an ILY before I manage to get up to 'Love H xxx'!!
Oh, and to add to the thoughts of the others, don't you dare cancel the Berlin trip! It sounds like it's going to be great fun and Essie's thoughts about handling the OM issue were spot on. You don't have to justify your behaviour to BF right now- just keep him wondering what he's missing out on (as you've been doing so beautifully)
