BND, thanks, but my MIL is one of a kind, trust me. She is a manipulator, a 2 faced liar, I could go on and on. I am not the only one to see it. Her own family sees it, her coworkers see it, family friends see it. Her own daughters really want nothing to do with her. She really is beyond messed up but yet she is so judgemental of all the good people out there. She always feels sorry for the losers. Might explain why her bf is an ex convict, the cellmate of her last H.
She kisses up to her son because she wants to be "close" to him, but what she doesn't realize is that she is doing more harm to him then good in the long run.
I always knew she was really messed up, even when I started dating my H. But she was/is his mother so I always tried to treat her with respect even though she is not a very respectful person.