I am starting a new thread because I always have such a hard time finding my other one since it was not under my name.
I have a feeling Donkey and dw went on another one of their ski trips. How nice.
He called last night and left a message on the answering machine and VM. He said "hi boys, it's your Daddy. I hope you weren't sitting home inside all day. I hope you were outside playing in the snow, sleighriding, or building a snowman."
He thinks I don't do anything with the children. I do, but I am not the Disney parent he is either.
Oh, and S6 did go outside yesterday in the snow. While S4 napped, we made a snowman. So cute!
Mrs. H, I'm so sorry to hear that you and the little one is still sick. I do hope that you and your son will be feeling better soon.
As for the "disney dad", well...take what he says w/a grain of salt. He doesn't know how to communicate w/them and/or no what to say to them when he leaves messages. Also, it's his way of baiting you. Just listen to the message, shake your head, delete the message and then have a good chuckle because "disney dad" is really out to lunch and doesn't know his own sons. This is a man that knows one or the other hasn't been feeling well for quite some time and still tries to encourage them to be outside. Such a sad little man.
You are an excellent mother and I certainly wouldn't allow that message to bug me. There's always the delete key and you do have the power to hit it. Too bad we can't delete them from our day-to-day lives every now and then.
Please take care of yourself. Hugs to you today.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Snodderly, that is exactly what I did...I erased the messages.
I am also struggling with something else. I was trying not to let it get to me but I feel like this person is not helping the sitch, my MIL.
It really bothers me that she did my H's dirty work for him by calling up his Grandmother and saying she needed to take back the invite. My MIL likes to say she just stays out of it but she doesn't at all. She is very 2 faced. I feel all she does is enable my H's childish behavior.
I think I am going to avoid my MIL at all costs from now on.
Do you even wonder why he still tries to take over, even when he isn't there any more
I do wonder, yes. Sometimes I think it's because he knows he is not going to have control much longer (regarding the children) and it's killing him. This is why sometimes I just want to get up and move and drop him from my life completely. He can try and control the ow instead.
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Enjoy your day, the sun is shining over here, but it's only 30 degees outside.
BND, thanks, but my MIL is one of a kind, trust me. She is a manipulator, a 2 faced liar, I could go on and on. I am not the only one to see it. Her own family sees it, her coworkers see it, family friends see it. Her own daughters really want nothing to do with her. She really is beyond messed up but yet she is so judgemental of all the good people out there. She always feels sorry for the losers. Might explain why her bf is an ex convict, the cellmate of her last H.
She kisses up to her son because she wants to be "close" to him, but what she doesn't realize is that she is doing more harm to him then good in the long run.
I always knew she was really messed up, even when I started dating my H. But she was/is his mother so I always tried to treat her with respect even though she is not a very respectful person.
Mrs. H, Blood is thicker than water when it comes to the inlaws. I would suggest that you not contact her for a while. If she opts to contact you, be friendly and do not share anything about what you are doing w/your life and do not discuss her son w/her. She's on the fence and doesn't know, nor most likely does she care what is right or wrong at this time. All she cares about is that her son is talking to her. I would also be careful how you deal w/his grandmother as well. These women are talking to one another and I wouldn't be at all surprised if grandmother tells her everything that you tell her, just in casual conversation. You can respect her at arm's length.
Continue to hit that delete button!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
All she cares about is that her son is talking to her.
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I would also be careful how you deal w/his grandmother as well.
Don't worry, I think about this too. I don't think she would intentionally tell MIL anything, but her mind is a bit confused these days and I can see her accidentally slipping info out. I talk to her about my feelings but I do not talk to her about stuff pertaining to the divorce.
Hi sweets - sorry to hear that S4 is still not well and that you're still a bit under the weather !
You know about how they have NO CLUE how to communicate...well, this morning my S4 stepped into bed with me and cuddled me and then all of a sudden out of the blue said...'ow is in bed naked'...I was too shocked to ask anything...so later at breakfast I mentioned this to D9 and asked her if she knew what her brother was talking about...D9 said that Friday morning on their way to school H had called ow on the phone and he had asked her if she was still asleep...apparently she was and he said to her...'you're so lazy'..(jokingly), then when he hung up the phone, he said to the kids...."ow is still in bed asleep and probably naked" ------- I was in shock ! Why would a grown man think that this is important information to give his kids ?!
Sometimes, I think he's insane ! I know my H is one of the mildest MLC'ers around and sometimes I wonder if it is MLC, but then today, I had NO doubt !
Sorry, just had to share my story with you ! Hope the day is going well for you, always thinking about you ! xx
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus
