My advice for you is to get on with your own life, and leave him alone.
From the way you have described him I am not sure why you want him back.
For now, I would work on my own self esteem issues and find a way to get your self confidence back.
You do not need anyone to make you happy or to feel complete again. Many of us believe that when our Spouses walk away it was because of us. We learn to believe that we caused all of the problems, and we are the ones who failed the Marriage.
Did we add to the demise of the relationship? Absolutely but nobody should take the full brunt of it.
It definately sounds like your Husband has enough issues of his own that contributed to the problems.
Stop trying. Take the focus off of him and work on yourself.
Sometimes when we get to a healthy place and can see things for what they really are, the rose colored glasses come off, and he may have actually done you a huge favor by leaving.
It seems like you have a great relationship with your Daughter, and I would focus on that.
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
