Thank you everyone for stopping by my thread and being so positive.
I got up yesterday and got dressed etc.. caught up on a show I had taped and slowly made my way over to D2 and H. Spent a few hours there.. doing the whole chit chat.. surface conversation.. nothing of importance. I had to get going so that I could meet up with my friend and H said he was going to take D2 to the park.. so that was it.
I met my friend for dinner... I'll expand on that in a minute.. just want to get all the H portion done first.. Called him to say goodnight to D2.. he asked how the movie was.. I said I was still at dinner.. so he asked what movie we were going to (he has no idea who I'm even out with) and I said I wasn't sure.. He sounded very excited and wanted to hear all about what movie I went to see.
I don't know about the rest of you but I find it emotionally exhausting trying to keep up the act of being happy with him and his current choices when we spend time together.. so as soon as I'm away from him I tend to get negative. I realize that this is something I have to work on for myself but I don't need people like my MIL telling me that I'm negative due to it being a specific time of the month. No, I'm negative because her SON is pretty messed up and has given up on our marriage!!!! Argh!!!!!!!
Anyway, I had a really nice dinner with my girlfriend. Unfortunately she is not in a very good place in her marriage and it sounds like it's been that way for years. Her H is depressed.. and has been for a very long time. He never sticks with any meds.. and from what it sounds like is just not able to be there for her emotionally at all.. it's all about him and his needs. I told her about the DR book and suggested that she read it.. since it's also a useful tool for people that are considering being a WAS... I don't know what she's going to do but I am glad she felt comfortable opening up to me. She said that some people are aware of what's going on in their M but that she had never really told anyone to the full extent of their problems until me. My heart is broken for her. She just seems so spent. I truly hope she gets the book.. It sounds like she knows a lot about depression but when for years the depressed person isn't seeking any kind of resolution it's hard for her to keep treading water. She has a completely separate life from her H now.. Something is keeping her there though, so that must mean there is still some hope, doesn't it?
