I feel your sadness. I really don't know what's "out there" for the WAS that's any better than keeping a family together. I guess my W. must have felt unloved, uncherished, unfulfilled, and must have been as she described "misearbel" She must have been filled with deep pain, I guess. I don't know why you would walk away from a family. Every response here clearly says it: No One Wins in Divorce.
D17 just got here first college accpetance today. Anoher reason I just shake my head, and ask again and again, "What could be that un-fixable"? No abuse, no subsatnce abuse, no infidelity, no weird proclivites, great income, great kids. I guess once that switch is turned off, it sometimes can't ever be turned on again.
