"I am ready to go...alone...see you later. have a good day." Bear smiles warmly as she throws her purse over her shoulder and walks towards the door Had you said those words, the rest of this post would have been about how you went out and did what you had to do. Try planning something to say in the future should this (or something similiar) happen again.
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I wish i knew where i stood in his life.
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All i saw was h constantly checking his phone, and texting.
These are the beginning of some AWESOME goals!!! - I need to really turn my time into trying to figure out how to stay in my home. - call about a lawyer thru employee assistance this week Add a specific day to the second one and that goal is just left to be accomplished. What do you think is the first step in the determining how to stay in your home? Is it to complete the parachute book? speaking with a lawyer? You get the idea.
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I want to fight truly for him
Bear, I know. I know you do. But your fighting FOR him is causing him to pull further away. Right now, you are better off fighting for yourself. You need to gain control over what you can control. You can't control him. You can't stop him from texting, from going out, from staying out. But you CAN control how much he interacts with you and how you handle your home.
I am sorry he was such an a$$ today. That totally sucks and is so painful. I've been there. Bear, believe me when I tell you, you have come so far. You are making progress. I can see you really are trying. Keep it up. Try getting some goals down on paper that are all totally YOU related. Nothing to do with H. and then begin to accomplish them.
Em
Me: 34 H: 39 M: 7 yrs H A 12/05-8/07
If what you say surprises me, I must have been assuming something else was true. - M. Wheatley
