You're right, Purr. We are left to guess what is going on inside their heads.

However, we do have one advantage. This site.

There are so many 'constants' in our sitches, that I think we can generalize on some of them, then apply the proper behaviors to ensure that we don't (at least) make things worse.

Some of our Ws were slower to come around than others. Why? Doesn't matter. We CAN'T overthink it.

If we don't push them into a decision, don't make them feel smothered, and don't treat them badly, many of them will come back to what they always wanted: A caring, communicative, affectionate husband. Of course that requires work on our part...but it's something we should be doing anyway.

Me: 54
Her: 50 and sexy as hell
M: 32yrs
T: 34yrs
Bomb: Sept 26-07 "lost our emotional connection"
Bomb 2: Dec 25-07 she's "not feeling desire"
She asked if she could come home Apr 26-08!
Everything's GREAT!