Yes.. I responded.. very immaturely at the time. One of his problems was this dumb dress that I bought. He was envious that it wasn't (for obvious reasons) bought to wear for him. I guess in his imagination I must be wearing it for 100 other guys..
This led into a very long conversation which concluded with me saying that we are d'ing per his request and he needs to let me go..
How pathetic these ow are.. From what I'm told, my H's ow knows how strongly he (supposedly) still feels about me and is jealous of me. So, she's pushing for him to move in ASAP - obviously so she can control him. She is also trying to "buy" my child. I guess it goes to show you that an affair with a married man doesn't stay the boost to the ego that it was in the beginning. She has signed on to a life of insecurity since I will never be 100% out of his life..
I can look back now and see all of the things ow has done/does to try to be this perfect woman for H. I'm sure that's not who she really is and her true colors will come out sooner or later... Not my problem when that happens, I guess.. Unless it affects my child!
Olive, I would guess that both your H and OW are not showing their true colors yet but will in time. I know my H is still pretending to be a neat person but is really a total slob, so OW will be in for a shock about that. He has a bad temper, etc. Eventually OW is going to see these things. Also OW is on her 2nd or 3rd marriage (still married) so I suspect she will not be the perfect woman she is pretending to be now either. I bet in every case on the boards here there is a similar situation. I think these affairs are like fantasies and eventually most (the statistics are 90% I think) break up when they realize that it is just a fantasy; the grass isn't any greener, etc.) Karen43
