All Hope is lost/Help - Part 2

[seekpeaceofmind]

I would suggest just ignoring his comment about future holidays as a family.

I don't think you have anything to lose by continuing to try. How do we know if we are in denial? There is a lot of advice on here that says the MLC or WA spouse says things they don't mean including IDLY. My theory has been that I can behave in a way now that guarantees I will push H further away and make it impossible for him to come back or I can try to keep the door open. We may not reconcile, but I don't think I would feel any better about things if I shut the door now. In other words - getting it "over with" now wouldn't help me. But, in my case, we have very little contact, so I'm not extending myself for him and my emotions aren't getting played upon.